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Jan
29

Who are Your True Friends? – Helpful and True or Pleasant Fluff

“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Proverbs 27:17

When you blog often, and venture into various online communities you find some good friends. And some not so good friends. One of the things I’m learning with my consulting, with my own sphere of influence and with my life in general is the difference.

Are you a true friend, sharp as iron? Or a blogging fluff without substance? Photo by Sanja Gjenero

Are you a true friend, sharp as iron? Or a blogging fluff without substance? Photo by Sanja Gjenero

What makes a true blogging friend?

In blogging, as with life, there are certain characteristics that define a true friend. Let’s take a quick look at them, shall we? I think that we sometimes forget.

A friend is true – and willing to tell the truth.

No, that theme does NOT look better than the last.” “Um, did you see that typo in the second paragraph? Might want to fix that before you tweet it out again.” or “Hey! How’s it going on that blog post you said you were working on?” These are the types of things you might hear a friend say. Especially a blog friend. After all – everyone hates to find the typo in paragraph two a week and a half later. ;-)

A friend has your best interest at heart.

In the blogging community I think we sometimes forget this. It’s not about you alone. You cannot reach every reader, work with every company, and write everything there is to say. So it should be obvious then that in the blogging community we should be looking out for each other. Perhaps, introducing sponsors and opportunities to those around us that if they are not something suitable for us specifically. Maybe it’s pointing out a fantastic post or article to our readers and followers. Maybe it’s just that our feedback isn’t fluff designed to stroke the ego, but rather our honest, heart-felt opinion designed to help another put their best foot forward.

I am grateful for those around me who are willing to stand by me, speak up to me and reach out on my behalf. Those who helped me when I championed a cause. Those who supported me when I started a new endeavor.

It makes me honored. And humbled. It makes me wonder, how am I being a friend to those around me? How do they perceive me? As approachable? As honest? As true? I hope so.

I know I can be blunt. As iron, sometimes. But I hope that my friends see the heart behind that – to make them sharper and more effective. What about you? What kind of friend are you?

Oct
11

How Social Media Saved #Jaeli

Sound extreme? It really isn’t that extreme when you consider that within 24 hours of the first tweet going out, nearly 75 mothers, fathers and concerned citizens had donated enough coffee and pizza money to buy the milk Jaeli needed. The milk she wouldn’t have otherwise been able to have.

Baby Jaeli - one of only four known to have Jaeli's Syndrome.

Baby Jaeli - one of only four known to have Jaeli's Syndrome.

Jaeli is a sweet, 4-month old baby girl I know personally, born with a rare chromosomal disorder that doesn’t even have a name—I call it Jaeli’s Syndrome. Only three other people in the entire US are known to have Jaeli’s Syndrome, but her’s is the story I worried about. Here’s the time-line breakdown of what has happened so far:

Tuesday morning (October 6th) I received an e-mail from Brandy, Jaeli’s mother. The donor breastmilk was running out and she just found out the other private donor she thought would be sending milk didn’t have any to send. The hospital refused to order any milk from the milk bank (which keeps a supply of donor milk on hand) since it wasn’t covered by the Vermont State Medicaid. Brandy’s options were 1-pay for the milk with cash she did not have after 4 months of intensive care for a sick baby or 2-be forced to feed Jaeli formula supplements she has shown SEVERE reactions to in the past. Or, as Brandy’s despondent e-mail said in a moment of hopelessness, watch her baby starve. Unacceptable to me!

By 2:30 pm that day I put up a Jaeli Page on my website describing what I knew of the situation,MomsDidMore and the first tweet went out. Within one hour there were over 30 retweets reaching an audience of over 70,000.

20 hours later with nearly 3,000 hits to the page and over 60 individual donations, we’d raised enough money that I surprised Brandy with a phone call directly to the hospital where Jaeli is admitted and I told her, “Call the milk bank and order a week’s supply for Jaeli. Tell the hospital a bunch of mothers gave their coffee money to do, in 24 hours, what they couldn’t do for you in FOUR MONTHS.”

Since then we’ve doubled the amount of donations from private citizens, as well as been given a generous donation of one box of high-calorie milk from the Ohio milk bank — a donation which has been matched by two other milk banks from around the country. More than 75 individual donations came in from at least 8 different countries including India, Canada, Scotland, New Zealand, Australia, England and more.

PutInfoOutOver six thousand people have come to the site, commented, e-mailed me directly, or are talking about this situation in a variety of chat boards, forums and, of course, on Twitter. Via our initial twitter efforts, which led to postings from others on many mothering websites, we’ve also been able to send donor agreement forms to over two dozen potential donors!

By the 48-hour mark, every milk bank in the HMBANA network was aware of Jaeli’s unique condition and working on her behalf. This is about the time someone (on Twitter of course) had the idea of a corporate sponsor to cover the cost of her feedings. Friends, family, twitterers and total strangers began emailing Nestle at nestlefamilyinfo@casupport.com and asking them to act on their stated support of babies by sponsoring Baby Jaeli’s feedings. This, again, is a contact made directly with Nestle via Twitter. We are still waiting to hear from Nestle, Gerber and other companies contacted about Jaeli’s situation.SpreadTheWord

By the 72-hour mark an online friend’s idea to call Senators and Representatives had various government agencies working on Jaeli’s behalf. Not only that — Baby Jaeli’s story has been read by a half-dozen news outlets. Over two dozen hospitals around the nation and several government agencies have become directly involved including the Vermont Health Advocate’s Office and Senator Leahy’s Office, to name two helpful agencies off hand. Both were contacted directly as a result of social media outreach…while potential donors and questions and e-mails continued to flood in.

We’ve all seen the blog-o-spere discussed in negative ways — people turning on each other and attacking one another. But here is a situation where the online community centered around a perfect little 8-pound baby and rallied on her behalf. My initial reaction of “Oh, no. You will NOT starve to death” was echoed by a thousand voices around the world. My initial reaction of raising enough to cover a week or two became an entire movement as idea after idea came pouring in. Let’s call Senators. Let’s e-mail Nestle. Let’s find a company to sponsor her. Let’s e-mail news outlets.

Apparently “Jaeli’s Syndrome” makes it easy to stick in people’s hearts as well. An entire community of online “advocates” have embraced a baby they’ve never met. Social media rules again — and this time the benefits are obvious and tangible. Especially for Baby Jaeli.

Where do we go from here? The doctors are completing their trials of what Jaeli will tolerate and grow on and should finish up this week. The current plan is to send Jaeli home on the milk bank milk in the high calorie formulation, because what this baby needs most is to GROW. We’ve secured and paid for enough of this milk to last through October, and thanks to donations trickling in yesterday, into November as well. After that – who knows? Either more donations will come in, medicaid will come through or large donors will step up. One thing IS for sure – this baby will have what she needs, one way or another.

Feb
21

Best SEO Tweets – Learn Effective Web Writing in 140 Characters or Less

After serving as a panelist at a recent Site-Warming twitter party for TypeAMom.net I realized that there really were some informational nuggets of SEO and web writing information in those tiny tweets. Here are some of the best that were tweeted out this evening.

Favorite SEO Tips for Beginners from the #typeamom Site Warming Party

SEO tip choose a narrow focus for keyword optimization

SEO tip choose a narrow focus for keyword optimization

Keep your articles narrow in focus to help search engines find you, and readers get what they are looking for!

SEO for newbies – use a strong title and subtitle, subheadings, organic keywords.

Titles: TRANSPARENT IS KEY. Not “afternoon stories for reading later” but “using children’s literature for preschool education”

SEO for beginners shared on twitter

SEO for beginners shared on twitter

Subheadings: Break up your article for easy web reading. What it the focus of those two or three paragraphs? Summary=subheading

Keywords: Use them in your article NATURALLY. “Preschoolers will enjoy Baby Bear” not “They’ll love the book”

Think of those three things (Titles/Subheadings/Keywords) as the ABC’s of ALL web writing – even personal blogs

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Additional SEO resources for beginning web writers and bloggers

Do you have an SEO tip or trick to share? Ah, but the real question is – can you share SEO in 140 characters or less? :-)